I THANK YOU FOR YOUR THOUGHTS HEINRICH, they are almost the exact same thoughts coming from my DAUGHTER,and SON-IN-LAW along with DONNIE, whe i asked my son-in-law should i give it up his answer was an ephatic NO I WISH I COULD NO THAT was his reply,,, the danger that my daughter pointed out to me was remember not every one is like that,,, and yes balance always balance, Will pm you tomorrow. Don ps and yes nigel was corect about reconnizing what is going on but when you are in a state like I was THAT IS NON EXISTING, it took my DAUGHTER< MY SON-IN-LAW, my BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER-IN-LAW and my middel SON ALONG WIT A KIND WONDERFUL PERSON NAMED DONNIE D